Why Marriage Is Hard, Part 243
LRock appears in the hallway early this morning wearing her witch costume for school halloween parade. She looks adorable, not to mention hot. I'm ready to eat her poisoned apple on the spot. So to be helpful, I fake scream, "Oooh, scary witch!"
She replies, sadly, "I'm not a scary witch. I'm a dancing witch!"
Damn.
After nearly 6 years of marriage, I'm starting to learn that specificity is something to be avoided.... in conversation, in compliments, in everything. The effort that you take will not be noticed or, worse, will be misconstrued somehow as a criticism.
"Your hair looks great. Did you get it done recently?" Sounds like a harmless compliment, right? But, what she hears is, "You didn't go to that expensive salon, did you?" Much better to say, "You look beautiful" and get on with your day.
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